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African Americans: A Look in the Mirror, Part 2
“For if any be a hearer of the word, and not a doer, he is like unto a man beholding his natural face in a glass: For he beholdeth himself, and goeth his way, and straightway forgetteth what manner of man he was.” James 1:23-24 The black community...

Are You Meeting ALL Your Child's Basic Needs?
This may come as a surprise, but many parents are unaware of the full extent of their child's basic needs. Do you remember the old song by Lennon and McCartney about the girl leaving home after 'living alone for so many years'? The...

Why Teach Thinking in Singapore?
The word ‘creativity’ has so many diverse meanings and interpretations. I remember telling an audience of teachers that creating a mess is also creative as long as new things and views are being conjured up. This led to much laughter and...

What I dislike about the new stay at home fad!

With kids going wild and shooting up schools much criticism has been brought up about both parents working outside the home. It emphasizes on parents being too busy to pay attention to their children. In turn many women are making a conscious decision to leave their careers in order to take care of the little ones (including myself). To me this is good but, some women are forgetting about their financial security and becoming 100% dependents of their partners. Not only that but, they are also failing to brush up on their skills and neglecting their education. In my opinion this is wrong!

I know you may be thinking Kenia why is it wrong to worry more about your children rather than in material things? And here is my answer to you: Dependency may increase the risk of domestic abuse. In case you do not understand my point I will explain: women that are lacking the self esteem, skills etc. to obtain a job as well as having no financial independence often feel trapped in abusive relationships. They stay because they can't provide the financial security for their children.

Remember all those women that fought for our rights so, that we can too be independent in every way possible. Do not let their efforts be in vain. So, women if you want to stay with your kid because you want to see them grow closely and give them all the love and attention they deserve, Do it! But, remember to keep brushing up your skills or find ways to stay financially independent from home.

Who says you can not have your cake and eat it too? There are many people running businesses from home as well as getting a college education. If you seek for it you will find the resources. But, never loose control of your life!

Your Friend,

Kenia Morales
About the Author

Kenia Morales is the publisher of online magazine "For Every Aspect of Today's Woman. Visit her site to find a variety of women related issues and topics" click here to find Kenia's little piece of heaven her inspirational column.